GB: Know Thy Role

It has recently been brought to my attention that many of you put an exorbitant amount of weight in some of your friendships. You expect more from your friends than they are able to produce, and when they reveal to you their limitations you are deeply disheartened and depressed. This is extremely unnecessary. I’m not advising you to relieve them of their duties as your friend and adopt a better selection process, but I encourage you to recognize the function each friend serves in your life.

The simply fact is this: the people that come in your life do so for different purposes. Everyone doesn’t share the same role and thus you should not have the same expectation of everyone. Your mission is to figure out why that person has been sent to you and to make sure you get the lesson they were sent to provide. I have this one friend who is just a complainer. She has a negative commentary for all of her life’s experiences and always feels compelled to share them. I used to avoid all conversation and interaction with her because I always knew where they would end: despair. But now I engage her because I know the purpose she serves in my life. She teaches me how to see the positive in every situation and, when I want to vent and see the negative, she’s always there with it. I don’t call her for any other purpose but for venting and I don’t hold her friendship to any other expectation because she would fail miserably.

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Sometimes a sistah gets a lil tired . . . Sike! But I do know some awesome folk who have taught me so much about life. And I thought it would be a shame to just keep all that great wisdom to myself so I've decided to share. Every other Wednesday get ready for our Guest Blogger (GB) series. I will feature a guest blogger who will grace our blog with a piece.